Manage a difficult boss

The bad, club, or a difficult boss who manages by the blast - using fear as its motivational weapons. The truth is that they arise out of fear of expressing their feelings, instead of communication. I do not know a lawyer who works with emotionally explosive heads, but if you are in this situation, there are some strategies that can put you until you find an alternative career opportunities.

1. Dealing with an explosive head is like walking a minefield - there's no saying when it will be the next step in the wrong. In extreme cases, an interaction based on the way to his backup. Against this background, trying to figure out what ignited the most common reaction. Are there delays, mistakes, bad news, missed deadlines and lost business, driven by emotions generated in response? Do not these situations, but be prepared for them. Understand that fear is the underlying emotions and control what may be your answer.

2nd Take a moment to focus on your own feelings deal with your boss. Are you experiencing anxiety before each meeting? Their fear is realistic? In other words, if you are afraid of losing your job, which is true? Are you concerned about the yelling escalated into violence? Are you afraid that you can not control your own reaction? Use this moment to realize that this scenario is unlikely and that cry is simply "act out" like a child who has not yet speak. Breathe. Realize you have control over your response.

3rd Keep your calm. So hard that the outcome may be, is very powerful. First, you will feel better, and secondly, your calm exterior is a model of behavior, you need your boss to experience in order to calm down. Let's play Tantrum, without answering. 911 The operator can only say, "calm" to refrain from it, because this proposal. Where appropriate, to confirm his or her feelings and offer alternative. 'I see you are keen to continue with this ... and yet I have to get a decision. "(Or whatever you need.) Deals discussions determining the questions now or at any other time.

4th Do not be a partner in the outbreak. Just as a customer want to meddle, to be heard, so that ventilation can occur. Offer alternatives. Be friendly, firm and secure in your reply.

5th Know when to walk away. It could happen, unless the above steps. When ranting continues to escalate, it may be wise to excuse themselves from the situation. In a neutral voice, you could say: "Excuse me, John, I do so it would be best for me to think back to my desk before we discuss it without crying." Again quiet.

Working with an explosive head is unproductive and unhealthy. Practice this strategy until things for the better, your boss will be enlightened, or a new manager. The latter is usually done prior to the first.